Oh my gosh I used to love collecting Vogue too - I remembering scouring the pages and desperately hoping one day I could buy an item from them haha. That day hasn’t come yet - and I exist largely in Lycra - but who knows!!
Ps - happy new year and ALWAYS glad to see your brilliant writing on my feed!!
Glad to hear you have some plans! In my experience, I tend to set my expectations very low and then I'll be pleasantly surprised by how well things have gone. For instance, I'm a father in a family of 5, so the things I want to do don't exactly slot in easily to the time I have available. So I'll set goals throughout the year, not just January, or think very small.
The downside of that is I also have an all-or-nothing approach to life, so I'll quite easily put everyone else before my own needs and wonder why I feel so drained all the time. I'm trying to be better at that each year though.
Happy 2026 Ebony! Your all year resolutions sound great. Mine are ongoing missions to continue embracing my authentic self and saying "No" when I want to but also not letting fear of rejection/not being liked get in the way of saying "Yes!" sometimes. 🖤
Absolutely - the unlearning of ‘shoulds’ has been one of the most rewarding outcomes of my diagnosis; who says that things have to be done any certain way? Usually only dumb societal standards (cough, patriarchy) or my own dogged self-actualisation turned into self-destruction… Done with giving myself more grief!
Happy new year! Yes to more daydreamy resolutions! Excited to hear about your plans when you're ready to share :)
Hopefully they will involve us very awkwardly hanging out ❤️
I'm glad you made it through, I've missed you.
Awww thanks David, happy new year! 😌
Oh my gosh I used to love collecting Vogue too - I remembering scouring the pages and desperately hoping one day I could buy an item from them haha. That day hasn’t come yet - and I exist largely in Lycra - but who knows!!
Ps - happy new year and ALWAYS glad to see your brilliant writing on my feed!!
Glad to hear you have some plans! In my experience, I tend to set my expectations very low and then I'll be pleasantly surprised by how well things have gone. For instance, I'm a father in a family of 5, so the things I want to do don't exactly slot in easily to the time I have available. So I'll set goals throughout the year, not just January, or think very small.
The downside of that is I also have an all-or-nothing approach to life, so I'll quite easily put everyone else before my own needs and wonder why I feel so drained all the time. I'm trying to be better at that each year though.
It's good to hear from you again by the way!
Happy 2026 Ebony! Your all year resolutions sound great. Mine are ongoing missions to continue embracing my authentic self and saying "No" when I want to but also not letting fear of rejection/not being liked get in the way of saying "Yes!" sometimes. 🖤
Absolutely - the unlearning of ‘shoulds’ has been one of the most rewarding outcomes of my diagnosis; who says that things have to be done any certain way? Usually only dumb societal standards (cough, patriarchy) or my own dogged self-actualisation turned into self-destruction… Done with giving myself more grief!